A Little Blessing is on His Way!
I’ve kept a secret from you guys for a little while now and not because I don't like to share good news, but because I needed to wait for the perfect time to tell our family first… you may already know, but Art, Ryan, Leo & I are excited to announce that we are awaiting the arrival of baby boy #3 due May 2019!
We've crushed a bunch of milestones and gotten through a lot of the tough times with our two boys with teething, sleeping, etc... although it never ends in a way, we got passed the "hardest hump" as we've been saying and we were pretty proud of that. But the universe works in mysterious ways obviously so here we go, we are about to be parents of three boys come May! WHAT?!?
Baby #3’s Gender Reveal
Finding out the gender was a little wonky this time. I had my routine ultrasound at 12 weeks to look for all fingers and toes, and any issues that may complicate the pregnancy. Everything looked normal and baby looked healthy, but being that this wasn't my first rodeo and I've seen quite a few ultrasounds now after two babies... I spotted baby's boy part pretty quickly, the doc called it out too. She said she couldn't 100% confirm gender so early on in the pregnancy which messed with my head and heart of course... and even though I felt in my gut it was a boy, I decided to get the blood test to confirm. I just couldn't wait for the 20 week ultrasound this time around.
I love being a boy mom so don't get me wrong when I say this... but after two boys I'm not going to hide that I was wishing hard for a little girl. It may sound cliche but I've always wanted a little girl, my tiny best friend and ballerina who I could take girl trips with when she's older... BUT, God had other plans for us and God's plan is always better! The blood test confirmed we are indeed having a boy! I always believe that everything happens for a reason and baby gender is no different in my mind. I will ultimately be responsible for raising happy, healthy, and kind babies as they grow from boys to men.
Sharing The News With Our Family
We shared the new with our families on Thanksgiving. I was thinking about different ways to tell them, but I knew I wanted to fit it into the holiday in some way. I started doing some searching online and I came across real turkey eggs on Etsy. Yes real turkey eggs! The lovely (two) Michelles (mother /daughter team) of Ferrell Farms picked out the perfect eggs, blew them out and shipped them to me in no time for a pretty unique baby announcement! If you're ever in need of handpicked eggs for arts and crafts, this team was a dream to work with. So kind and professional, they even sent me baby blue paint to paint my eggs for the gender reveal. PS. You know I had to have extra eggs on hand because I have boys, duh.
We told Ryan and Leo first about their baby brother, and luckily my sis was there too and got to record the whole thing… and find out the news herself too! Leo still doesn't get it, but Ryan does and he’s so excited! He now pays attention to my belly and points at his baby brother and is extra gentle anytime he's near the baby's zone.
To tell our parents, Art's grandparents, and his sister's family we decided to be super low key. As they arrived at our home for thanksgiving dinner we had a couple cheese boards out for all to enjoy. On the counter next to the boards we placed three nests, two of them empty with just name signs that read Ryan and Leo, and then one nest with a baby blue egg in it with a handwritten sign that read Baby Bro Hatching May 2019. Angela of Truly Madly Ink came through at the last minute with the most beautiful, simple and elegant handwritten signs for the announcement. I've worked with her plenty and she always delivers quality products!
We just let our family members run into the signs… and the signs did the talking, haha. It was fun to see the different reactions of everyone as they stumbled upon the announcement and actually put two and two together. Fun times!
First Trimester Feels
Time for a little truth. Every pregnancy is a blessing and I'm absolutely grateful and thankful to get to experience growing a little human inside for a third time, but I want to shed some light and open up about some of the symptoms I've been experiencing because I don't think pregnancy truths are talked about enough and it might make another expecting mama feel ok about having similar feelings, too.
Now, I've met a lot of mamas along the way in my line of work and I've for sure heard stories about how some of their pregnancies were as lovely as can be, no nausea, no tiredness, glowing skin... I had a girlfriend recently tell me she had no idea she was pregnant until she was 17 weeks along! 17 weeks! She had no symptoms and assumed she was just late with her period. Anyway, I wish I could say my pregnancies have been a breeze and glamorous, but that hasn't been the case for me. Again, I'm fortunate I haven't had any pregnancy complications or health issues, so I’m not trying to be a downer and complain... I just want to be true with my journey.
I've been nauseous as hell, tired every day to the point of not being able to function at my usual capacity, and experiencing the worst adult acne ever! I felt pretty much the same during the first trimester of my previous two pregnancies as well (minus the acne, which is what made me think it could be a girl this time), so I was prepared for what was to come as soon as I took the home pregnancy test and got the positive.
Tips if you experience pregnancy like me: avoid eating big meals after 5pm and take your prenatal supplements in the morning with breakfast to help with the nausea and heartburn. I found that I felt less nauseous through the day when I had a cup of this ginger tea in the morning. Nap when you can during the day so you aren't exhausted and crashing in the evenings. Avoid using harsh skincare products and minimize the number of products you use on your face daily to not further the the skin changes already happening as a result of pregnancy hormones. Don't pick at your face! My favorite gentle face scrub during pregnancy is Laura Mercier's, I use it twice a week to sluff away dead skin.
What Are We in For
For real, for real? I'm terrified. Whether a boy or a girl, I'm truthfully scared as hell of being a mom of three. Two is a lot to juggle as it is and there’s no turning back… we're doing this thing. I'm also afraid of whether I'll be able to give my first two boys the right amount of attention when baby arrives. I'm very hands on in the newborn stage and breastfeeding requires a lot of my time and attention with baby in the first months, so I'm hoping my hubby can be there for the older boys in a way where they won't feel my absence and have any resentment. How will I juggle it all? I know I’ll need to accept help wherever and whenever I can. I want to hire help as well, but finding the right person to come into our home and be a part of our family isn't easy either.
Oh mamas, will everything just magically fall into place? Any and all advice from mamas of 3 or more is welcome and appreciated!